HopeK429

This is something that took me a very long time to learn. I used to tolerate a lot because I didn't want to lose people. I learned the hard way if they were really my people they would never treat me like that. Don't make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you're being repeatedly disrespected. Let them be upset.
Let them judge you.
Let them misunderstand you.
Let them gossip about you,
Let them ignore you.
Let them be "right."
Let them doubt you.
Let them not like you.
Let them not speak to you.
Let them run your name in the ground.
Let them make you out to be the villain.
Whatever it is that people want to say about you, let them!
Kindly step aside and LET THEM.The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you. They just simply don't care. They did it knowing it could cause them to lose you. They did it anyway. People that love you care about how they make you feel.
The end.
Let them go. There will be people that would rather lose you than be honest about what they've done to you. Let them go.The lack of respect was the closure. The lack of apology was the closure. The lack of care was the closure. The lack of acountability was the closure. The lack of honestly was the closure. Let them go. Make the decision to no longer sit at tables where you might be the topic when you get up. Let them go. You can still be kind. You can even still love them deeply. But do it from the distance they created in their words and actions. Access to you is a privilege they have proven they can’t be trusted with. Let them go. You don’t need to tell your side of the story. God already knows. Let God fight the battle for you. Let them go. It’s taken me a long time to get here. Sleepless nights, countless tears, managing a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion and deep hurt. Lots of self reflection, self preservation, deep prayer and seeking wisdom from those much wiser than me. If you are struggling with this please know you are not alone. We will never understand why hurt people hurt people. But we can do the hard work to grow ourselves. Because healed people do in fact heal people. Don’t you dare let them steal your joy.
Don’t you dare let them steal your light.
Don’t you dare let them steal your peace.
You are in control of that. Hold tight to what you can control and release your grip on what you can’t control.Let them go.

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Life isn't fair, but it's still good., When in doubt, just take the next small step.,Life is too short – enjoy it.., Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will,. You don't have to win every argument. ,Stay true to yourself.,. Save for retirement starting with your first pay check., When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile., Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present, It's OK to let your children see you cry, Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about., If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it...,Take a deep breath. It calms the mind, Get rid of anything that isn't useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.,Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.,It's never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.,When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer., Over prepare, then go with the flow.,Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age ,The most important sex organ is the brain., No one is in charge of your happiness but you., Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this even matter?',Always choose life.,Forgive but don’t forget., What other people think of you is none of your business.,Time heals almost everything. Give time time.,However good or bad a situation is, it will change., Believe in miracles.,Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.,Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young., Your children get only one childhood make it a memorable one for both of you, especially them they will remember it when you least expect them to,,. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved and accepted those you love for who they are not what the world expects them to be, Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere. (I love this one, If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back, Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have not what you need., The best is yet to come... No matter how you feel, get up, and enjoy the day God has given you, Life isn't always fair but it's still a gift, Time is also a gift one we can’t get back ,whatever you do don’t waste it on anger, Never forget where you come from, not what you come from, Self pity makes us weak, fight for yourself because sometimes we’re the only person who can .

I haven't been on in about 10 or 11 weeks thought I'd come on Wish you all a late Merry Christmas I hope it was spent with those you love most and you made many many memories to last a lifetime.. And that your 2024 is an awesome year for each of you, I had 2 major kidney surgeries one in November than on Sat Dec 9th we were hit with a tornado and I was in my nieces home who was 7 months pregnant, I had been house bound from surgery for what seemed like and eternity, so I decided to get out Id go help with what I could to set up baby Carson' s nursery, we were alerted by the sirens and our immediate thought what no way and well it went off a 2nd time and wasn't ending we knew it was for real and close, both our phones went off with the alarm at the same time, I was moving very slow due to 3 weeks post op she was moving slow due to 7 month pregnant, as we made our way down stairs the winds felt like they were pulling us out of her house, we made it to the basement level and within seconds you were deafened by the tornado going right over the house , it was only seconds but it felt like hours, as it was over neighbors came over and were yelling was she ok, , the entire top half of the house was gone no where to be found, it was just like you had sawed it in half, .Within hours she was in full labor baby Carson came that night and was born at 26 weeks he weighed 2 pounds 2 ounces and is in NICU and will be for a few more months, I ended up having a 2nd surgery 3 days after this for damage had done to my previous surgery, I'm doing ok but please I'd like to ask you to pray for Carson, he is still so so very tiny and has such a long road of healing and growing to do to be able to come home to us all.. Things can and will get replaced , lives and those we love are the most important things in this world, Damage to my house and barns are still in repairs, my nieces house was a total loss, and this past week end she moved into her new home closer to where I am, :) Carson in all of this is the most important thing to all of my family.. Babies are amazing and so so much stronger in their fights than we can even imagine, I'm in awe of this tiny lil boy struggling so so hard just to survive and begin his life, I've saw pain and heart break in the eyes of my niece who I raised like my daughter, and I know her pain and even still all I can do is love her thru it and trust Gods plan for her Carson and my family...

Something to think about....What if you were a single parent with a child . You work full time for $14.00 hr. You bring home roughly $800 .00 per paycheck (bi-weekly).Your bills:$1, 000 . 00 / rent$150 .00 / electrical$250 .00 / car payment$150 .00 / car insurance So let’s do the math :You bring home about$1,600 .00 a month & your bills average about $1,550.00 (give or take).You’re making it, but barely.This doesn't even include groceries, internet, cable, cell phone, etc .(nor does it include child tax credit, or child support)Now, it’s a really cold December and you get a power bill for $600 .00 so How do you pay that? To put it simply , you don’t. Because you can’t. So your power gets shut off. But you know what your lease says? It says you get evicted if your utilities are terminated. So now you’re in court crying to a judge who doesn’t care, & you have 10 days to get out. Well you’re in luck, because you found somewhere with 3 days to spare & it’s only $650.00 a month! But to get in, you must pass a background & credit check. Which you can’t because you just got evicted. You’ve never been a criminal, but even if you could pass it, you’re looking at $1300 to move in, after paying the deposit & first month’s rent. Time’s up ....Landlord shows up at 7am with the police & changed your locks. So, now you’re living in your car with your 7 year old son & everything you need to get by. You tried to get a storage unit, but you don’t have a billing address so they won’t sell one to you. So you could only take what would fit in your backseat.You pay to shower at local truck stops & eat whatever can be cooked in a gas station microwave.Someone sees you & your son living like this & calls C.P.S; guess what happens next ? ? ? They remove your child from your care. As if this isn’t devastating enough, you lose your job too. (Because “an employee losing their child reflects poorly on this company . So now, you apply for an apartment with the region where the waiting list is 3-7 years. Then you go into Wal-Mart to put in an application. When you get back to your car you see that your back window has been smashed & someone helped themselves to your belongings. Remember that it is December & really cold. Now you have damage to your only shelter.You call your car insurance, who says your deductible is $1,000.00~ AND ~ they’re going to increase your monthly rate since you’re now“ high risk .”You call the homeless shelter as a last resort & all their beds are full. I’ll stop here .....Because I think you get the point The people we work with everyday are these people . WE ARE THESE PEOPLE .We are all so close to homelessness & don’t even realize it .All it takes is :* one unexpected bill
~* one fender bender
~* one lay-off
~* one house fire
, etc.Instead of talking trash about people who are poor , homeless , or need assistance , why don’t you try being grateful that you’re not in their shoes ...... YET ! This is about staying humble & being kind .BE THANKFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE because We Are All Struggling In Different Ways.. I am fortunate enough to have never been in this situation, but God only knows with todays times it could happen to any of us no matter how financially stable we think we are, This is a scenario that people we pass by every single day in our daily lives, I dunno bout you but if I see someone's car piled full my first thought is that is that persons shelter at that time, It's sad and it's happening more and more every single day, Our country lets in Immigrants and treats them better than our own people, that is messed up and so so wrong on so many levels and it all begins with voting in a President that can help fix the destruction Biden has caused , if that's even possible the man is a lunatic and as long as he or someone like him is in office these people struggling to stay afloat are going to sink faster than a hundred pound weight.. next time your out and about Take in your surrounding a lil deeper and I'm sure your eyes and mine will be opened to things like this and worse, Be kind stay humble and most of all never say that won't happen to me, cuz you know what I bet half those in this situation at one point said the very same thing, It won't happen to me well it did it and it can..