HopeK429

I don’t actually believe New Year’s Day is any different than any other day. I don’t believe a random point in the time measurement system we’ve created requires us to make a  list of things we need to change or improve. New Year’s Eve is, in fact, just another day, and the next day is one, as well. I don’t mean to minimize the excitement of the New Year, or any of the days we’ve chosen to celebrate for religious or honorary reasons. What I’m saying is that New Year’s resolutions often fail for a reason, and it’s only slightly related to intention or discipline .Resolutions fail because they don’t emerge from true breakthroughs or reasonings,,, They’re calendar-driven obligations. and they often address the symptoms, not the cause of our unhappiness or need for changes.. Some resolutions are smart for our physical and emotional health and well-being. Quitting smoking, losing weight, managing stress better  quit cussing,,,, ( just so you know  that has never been a resolution I knew I could keep for a whole year  )—most of these are all healthy things .But if we don’t address what underlies our needs to light up, order double bacon cheeseburgers, and worry ourselves into frenzies, will it really help to vow on one arbitrary day to give up everything that helps us pretend we’re fine? It’s almost like we set ourselves up for failure to avoid addressing the messy stuff. The stuff that makes us make all these resolutions, I can’t say this is true for everyone, but my experience has shown me that my unhappiness—and my need for coping mechanisms—come from several different places: I’m dwelling on the past or obsessing about the future .I’m comparing myself to everyone else—their accomplishments, the respect and the attention they garner, and their apparently perfect lives. I’m feeling dissatisfied with how I’m spending my time and the impact I’m making on the world. I’ve lost hope in my potential. I’m expecting and finding the worst in people. I’m turning myself into a victim or a martyr, blaming everyone else .I’m spiraling into negative thinking, seeing everything as a sign of doom and hopelessness ,I’m assuming there should be a point in time when none of the above happens anymore. The last one, I believe, is the worst cause of unhappiness. All those other things I mentioned are human, whether we experience them persistently or occasionally. We’ll do these things from time to time, and they’ll hurt. In the aftermath, we’ll want to do all those different things that every year we promise to give up, We’ll want to eat, drink, or smoke away our feelings. Or we’ll want to work away our nagging sense of inadequacy. Or we’ll judge whether or not we’re really enjoying life enough, and in the very act of judging detract from that enjoyment. So, perhaps the best resolution has nothing to do with giving up all those not-so-healthy things and everything to do with adopting a new mindset that will make it less tempting to turn to them .Maybe instead of trying to trim away all the symptoms of our dissatisfaction, we can accept that what we really want is happiness—and that true happiness comes and goes. We can never trap it like a butterfly in a jar. No amount of medication or meditation or drinking  can change the fact that we will sometimes get caught up in thoughts and emotions .It’s not about perfection or a complete release from all the causes of unhappiness. It’s about accepting that being human involves a little unhappiness—but how often it consumes us is up to us...all those things mean nothing if you’re not in the right head space to release the bad and enjoy the good, Resolve what you will this year, but know that happiness And peace should be our ultimate goal. It starts in daily choices, not  our yearly resolutions—on any day  we can decide to start, it's not always easy  the past has a way of trapping us  if not in body in  our minds, but were never gonna have a future if we don't let go and start new and every day brings us this chance  it may not me on Jan 1 2022 it may be weeks or months into the year, One day at a time one foot in front of the other is how I ny future my year ahead , no promises , no resolutions, I'm just gonna love those around me a lil more than the day before and more tomorrow, I'm gonna  be happy with life as it is and  not be so anxious about my future , and I'm gonna laugh even on the,bad days just like I have always done becuz no matter how much modern medicine there is in this world Laughter I truly think is the best one  For anyone who reads this I wish you  a year of whatever brings you happiness, its your life do what makes you happy not what makes everyone else happy, I hope you smile on the bad days , that you find innner peace  on the days of chaos and that you are surrounded by thosue you love and those who love you , because honestly I cant think of anything better for the coming year than that,,, Happy 2022 Everybody !!

Hope